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Fun Fun Fun

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I doubt I could,
but together we sure could!

That was Suzi. Upon my suggestion that she help me with my timesheets. Responding to my hope that she could make that tedious chore “fun” for me. Then we both laughed at our shared private thoughts of how we could make timesheets so much fun, they might ban me from having to fill them out ever again!

What if anything might be even more fun-adverse than timesheets, I might ask. Say, caring for a baby? Oh, but I’ve way too much deep experience changing diapers and giving baby baths and feeding finicky baby mouths and rocking little ones to sleep and waking at odd hours caring for a child, way way way too many hours for me to ever feel the sting of insult suggesting me the fool to think caring for a baby can’t but be fun. Seriously, babies are one of the most fun things a person can ever hope to enjoy! Because fun has nothing to do with the burden of the responsibility or with the tedium of the activity or with the ickiness of any part of the effort. No, fun has a lot more to do with one’s desire to engage in the activity and the depth of the pleasure one can get out of the activity.

That, and doing it with someone else, as Suzi acknowledges. Like, can a person truly have fun solo? Perhaps, although most activities one might raise as illustrations of solo fun have at least an implicit involvement with someone else. For instance, my poetry reading — even when I do so out loud, a frequent fun exercise of mine, my poetry reading is almost always conducted alone. Yet what makes it most fun is that I am not reading my own poetry, nor did the poet wrote the poem solely for his or her own benefit, rather that I am engaging in an activity meant for at least two: a writer communing with a reader. Absent that joint activity, any supposed fun seems flat and empty. But immerse myself in that collaboration, and any definition one could give to “fun” describes the experience that keeps me coming back for more.

Ah, yet Suzi suggests that together we could make timesheets fun, while of course implicitly but rather painfully making it obvious that she will not be helping me out in such a way, not on this particular activity. Leaving me to my timesheets alone. Which of course means that of all the things I can point to that I do in any given fortnight, that one activity happens to be the only one in which I can find no fun. I’d much rather be changing the messiest baby diaper. Oh well.

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4 September 2014 at 1:41 pm

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